As October draws to a close, so does our studio’s month-long exploration of change. While we’ve danced through ideas of transformation and renewal, it’s essential to pause and reflect on one simple truth: change is inevitable. Life is always in motion, often beyond our control, and as much as we may want to steer, fighting against change is exhausting.
We spend so much time trying to control the uncontrollable, gripping onto the familiar, too blinded by fear to realize it no longer serves us.
But what if we stopped resisting?
What if we allowed change to unfold naturally?
Trying to control every twist and turn life presents us is like trying to stop the tide from rolling in, or a creek from flowing. It’s draining, both mentally and physically.
The more we resist, the more damage we cause, not just to our minds and bodies but to our growth.
The tighter we cling to the need for control, the further we drift from the opportunity to embrace the person we could become.
Because here is the truth: change doesn’t mean you become someone else. It’s not about abandoning who you are; rather, it’s about peeling away the layers of what has happened to you. Over time, we develop reactions and defenses based on old wounds, past mistakes, and the things we've been taught, often as a way to protect ourselves, scar tissues from another time. But what if we didn’t need that protection anymore?
We’re not shaping ourselves into someone new—we’re unbecoming. We are unbecoming the parts of us that are just reactions to pain. We are unbecoming the habits and behaviors we've built as survival mechanisms, born out of long-past situations. As we shed those layers, we find something powerful beneath them: our truest, most authentic selves.
This process is not easy. It requires facing the discomfort of accepting where we may have gone wrong, owning our mistakes, and—most importantly—letting them go.
This is where change asks the most of us: the willingness to take accountability.
Change forces us to look inward and acknowledge the uncomfortable truths about how we’ve held ourselves back or perpetuated patterns that no longer fit who we are or where we want to go.
And yes, it’s hard! Peeling off those calloused layers is uncomfortable. It hurts. It leaves us feeling vulnerable, exposed to the uncertainty of what comes next.
But staying the same—staying wrapped in that hard shell—means we miss out on the incredible version of ourselves that’s waiting to be unveiled.
Change isn’t just about becoming something better; it’s about becoming the best version of ourselves. The one that’s always been there, hidden beneath the layers of what we’ve been through.
Even though the journey through change is painful and uncertain, it’s can also be freeing. There’s a kind of peace that comes with no longer fighting the tide. Instead of clinging to the safety of what’s known regardless if it's the best for us or not, we can allow the waves of transformation to wash over us, trusting that even in this discomfort, we are moving toward something greater.
So as we finish October, remember this: change is a part of life’s flow.
It asks us to let go of the need for control, embrace the hard work of unbecoming, and trust that what lies beyond is far better than staying the same.
With each layer you shed, you step closer to your greatest form.
Let it happen.
Let yourself grow.
Let the transformation unfold.
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